What Does a Wedding Planner Do And Why You Need One?

If you are newly engaged over the Christmas break, or in the early stages of planning your wedding, you have probably asked yourself the same questions many couples do:

What does a wedding planner actually do? And do I really need one?

Perhaps you are organised, capable and used to managing complex projects at work. Maybe you have already started a Pinterest board or visited a couple of venues in Surrey, Hampshire, or West Sussex. On the surface, wedding planning can look deceptively straightforward.

In reality, planning a wedding is a large-scale project with countless moving parts, detailed timelines and an emotional investment. A wedding planners role goes far beyond making things look beautiful. They are your facilitator and although cringey to say, your ‘wingman’. It’s about logistical planning, attention to detail and foresight, ensuring you can genuinely enjoy both the planning journey and the wedding day itself.

So, what does a wedding planner do and why might hiring one be one of the most valuable decisions you make?

What does a Wedding Planner do before the wedding?

The most important work a wedding planner does happens long before your wedding day arrives.. A planner takes the time to understand your vision, priorities, concerns, family dynamics, and how you want your wedding to feel. Often, ideas are exciting but slightly overwhelming at first.

Importantly, a wedding planner is there to facilitate your ideas, not take over control. If you have strong views and creative ideas of your own, a good planner will support and refine them, offering guidance and creative input when requested.

One of the first practical steps is creating a realistic budget. An experienced planner helps you understand:

• Where your money will have the greatest impact. For example, the correct lighting can elevate a room or marquee into a stunning setting.

• Where is it worth investing. Are you wanting the most incredible floral tablescapes? Perhaps you could remove the wedding favours to save cost in order to achieve this? A coloured napkin, different coloured water glass and beautiful stationary can also elevate a table setting.   

  
  

The budget is particularly important for marquee weddings. A marquee is a blank canvas, which brings incredible creative freedom but also additional considerations. Costs such as generator power, flooring, furniture hire, kitchen facilities, loos, and lighting are often included within a venue hire but need to be planned separately for a marquee wedding. A planner ensures these elements are considered from the outset, rather than becoming costly surprises later.

Guidance on your venue is another key area. A beautiful wedding setting is extremely important but so is understanding the practical realities behind it, including:

• Access and logistics. The questions your planner will be asking: are there specific delivery times, are there lifts to the room, does this mean the band/DJ’s equipment will fit in, is there an additional charge for accessing the venue the day before, and is there an event the day before which will impact your wedding setup?

• Power supply; power is extremely important for marquee weddings and your planner will ensure they gather all the power requirements from your suppliers to ensure the correct generator is sourced.

• Licensing and noise limitations; knowing what time the party needs to stop is vital. Many venues have a late licence in place, but some may tell you midnight when realistically they mean drinks service needs to stop at 11.30pm so all your guests have left by midnight.

• Guest flow and comfort - depending on the time of year, will additional heaters be required, is there air conditioning available?

• Weather contingencies; what are the back-up plans? If you are hoping to have the ceremony outside, is there a contingency in place to have a stretch tent to keep guests sheltered or an indoor option.

Once the foundations are in place, supplier sourcing begins. Rather than spending countless hours researching, your planner brings their own trusted network of suppliers who are right for your style, budget, and venue. They can manage enquiries, comparisons, contracts, and ongoing communication, ensuring everyone is aligned from the very beginning.

Wedding stationery is another area where couples often underestimate the level of detail involved. From save the dates and invitations to on the day items such as order of service, place cards, menus, and signage, a planner ensures everything is consistent with your theme. This includes managing wording, proofreading details, liaising with designers/calligraphers and printers, and ensuring quantities reflect your final guest list.

Table plans, in particular, benefit from an experienced and impartial eye. A wedding planner can help you navigate sensitive family dynamics, and create a layout that works practically for the room. On the day itself, your planner ensures the table plan or placement cards are set up correctly and any last-minute changes are handled discreetly.

What does a Wedding Planner do during the planning process?

As the planning progresses, the role of a wedding planner becomes increasingly valuable. One of the most underestimated tasks is timeline management. A planner creates a structured timeline, breaking the process into manageable stages and ensuring key decisions are made at the right time. This removes the constant feeling that everything is urgent and helps planning feel calm and controlled.

Your planner also becomes the central point of contact for all suppliers. Instead of juggling emails, follow-ups, and questions from multiple directions, you have one calm, organised professional overseeing communication. This not only saves time but also significantly reduces the endless decisions, something many couples do not anticipate until they are deep into the planning process.

Your planner can also act as a calm, neutral point of contact for guest-related queries, helping manage questions around timings, logistics, accommodation, and transport without everything coming directly to you.

Just as importantly, a wedding planner provides emotional reassurance. Planning a wedding can bring unexpected tension, family opinions on where certain family members should sit, and moments of self-doubt. Having an experienced, impartial person to lean on makes a significant difference to how enjoyable the journey feels. Many of my brides and grooms have gone on to become close friends.

What does a Wedding Planner do on the Wedding day?

By the time your wedding day arrives, months and sometimes years of preparation have already taken place. The role of your wedding planner is now to deliver your celebration.

Your planner coordinates every supplier, managing arrivals, access, and set-up schedules so that no one is waiting, rushed, or working at cross purposes. This is particularly important at marquees in private homes across Surrey, Hampshire and West Sussex, where access, timing, and space often need careful management.

As the day unfolds, your planner runs the schedule behind the scenes. They cue the ceremony, manage transitions between each part of the day and ensure everything flows naturally. If timings shift and they often do, they can adapt the plan or suggest a slight change with you without it feeling noticeable to your guests. A sudden change in weather, a missing lip gloss for a last-minute photograph!, or a guest with an additional dietary requirement, is handled calmly and discreetly. The aim is simple: you remain present, relaxed, and are able to enjoy every moment. Your families and wedding party benefit too. Instead of being asked questions or dealing with logistics, they can focus on celebrating with you.

Why hiring a Wedding Planner is an investment, not a luxury

It is understandable to feel that wedding planning is something you could do yourself, especially when family and friends kindly offer to help. The reality is that they will also want to enjoy your wedding, and having an impartial professional overseeing everything is invaluable.

Many venues also offer a wedding coordinator and may describe this role as a wedding planner. While wedding venue coordinators play an important part, their focus is on the venue and its operations. They are often managing multiple weddings and cannot be on hand for every detail or decision that affects you personally.

The real value of a wedding planner lies in what you gain and what you avoid.

First, there is time. Planning a wedding properly takes hundreds of hours. A planner gives you some of that time back, allowing you to enjoy your engagement alongside your existing commitments.

There is also financial value. An experienced planner helps you avoid costly mistakes and ensures your budget is used wisely.

Stress reduction is perhaps the greatest benefit. Knowing that a professional is overseeing every detail allows you to make decisions calmly without panic or pressure.

Finally, there is the guest experience. A well-planned wedding feels effortless to attend.

How I can help

I offer a range of wedding planning services designed to support you.. Whether you are looking for full planning from start to finish, partial planning support, or calm, professional coordination on the wedding day itself, my approach is always the same: organised and discreet and to make the journey as fun as possible.

Alongside weddings, I also plan bespoke birthday and anniversary celebrations in marquees within private grounds as well as corporate events . Many of my clients value clear communication and the trust and reassurance of knowing every detail is being handled with care.

I work with couples and clients across Surrey, Hampshire, and West Sussex, creating detailed events that are beautifully executed.

If you would like to explore how I could help with your wedding planning then please get in touch, I would love to chat.

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Best wishes and I look forward to hearing from you.

Sophie